It must have happened to you many a times that your achievements have made your family very happy and proud of you. And eventually you took pride in yourself that you have made them happy with your achievements. And this continued till one day you realized that the dreams you have been chasing was not actually your own but the expectation of others and till now you have been happy because others were happy about you.
So in your success where does your happiness lie? Does it lie in fulfilling the expectations of others or in your own success?
Actually success and happiness are correlated. Let us see what is the actual meaning of becoming successful? Success can be termed as any actions that make you happy. For that matter actions which causes stress and strain in your mind and does not make you happy cannot be termed as success. So if you are happy then you are successful but if you are successful does it always mean you are happy?
Therefore there should be no hesitation in your endeavor to be happy. After all it is the self fulfillment that makes one happy. And that what success is all about. But nevertheless there are those authorities who always decide what is best for their children and push them hard to meet the ends of their own needs. Actually they want to fulfill their own dreams through their children which they have not been successful to achieve. And in the run for achieving their dreams the children forget to cherish their own and one day they wake up all dissatisfied with their decision but then it is too late for them. And they turn up to their children for this fulfillment and the vicious circle starts.
But instead of throwing the load of their expectation if the parents trust their children and help the child in making his own decision of fulfilling his dreams then they will not just make an attempt to make their child happy for the rest of his life but also have the content deep down their own heart.
Success in chasing someone else's dream does not bring in the happiness in the life as fulfilling own dream does. This could be the reason why most of the people in their mid- thirties or forties suddenly realize that they are in the wrong profession. And regret the decision they had made in their earlier years. And the very thought of starting all over again makes them go weak. They continue to live their life as it is but with little contentment. They just linger on with the time and lose the jest of life eventually. But those who really feel the need deep inside take up the challenge and become happy. And eventually they become successful also.
Similar situation can be seen in some married couple also. Initially to make the parent happy they get married with the alliance decided by their parent. They never give any priority to their own thinking. For some years they think their marriage is successful because others are happy about them. But eventually down the line the cracks starts appearing in the relationships which is quite visible but either they keep on dragging their marriage or call it off. In either case if they make their own decision then they will be happy for the rest of their life. So success is where your happiness lies.
Sunday, July 19, 2009
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Generating enough Traffic for your Website
Any Website owner will vouch for the fact that, it is indeed traffic, that keeps the Website up and going. Practical as it may sound, Website traffic is inevitable and if your Website is consumer based then there is no other way around. Therefore, if you are a novice business owner, or own a Website, but are fumbling for more traffic, here is how you can drive a good amount of traffic to your site.
The first and foremost way to aggregate traffic on your Website is to spend some money on search engines. Leading search engines like yahoo or Google are extremely popular and they would provide a great advertising platform for your Website. You will have to spend inevitably on these search engines but it would be worth the money since Yahoo’s Overture and Google’s Ad words are popular as they guarantee a good amount of traffic for any site. Many organizations have hugely profited from this kind of advertising, and you would not prefer to be left behind.
Swapping links is another great way to advertise your Website. In this method, you need to exchange or trade your links mutually with another Website owner so that he or she can display your link on their Website and you do the same for them as well. This can generate unexpected results if you have traded your site link with a number of other websites.
The concept of viral marketing has steadily crept up on the Internet. This type of marketing allows you to attach your link or any kind of Website details to a small piece of article, a video, or even a game. This type of advertising is very effective since it involves a lot of creativity and is either free or else, very cheap.
People tend to ignore completely, the importance of keywords in a Website. Having the right keywords displayed on your Website is necessary. This is because search engines work on the principle of keywords. You can type in the content yourself or get it done professionally.
Another good way of driving traffic to your Website is by writing articles that are relevant to the main theme of your site. For instance, if your Website deals with automobiles, you can write articles related to automobile deals and automobile parts. You could attach a link to your site at the end of the article along with a small description. People who read these articles would naturally be tempted to visit your site through the link. A lot many sites offer a free hosting of such articles.
Boards or internet communities can also help you generate traffic for our Website. The significance of such boards or communities is that they help you drive a targeted group of visitors to your Website. For instance, if you are looking for traffic from a certain part of the world, boards or communities can be of great help to you. Forums or communities can be great places to display the content and niche of your Website. This will fairly help you to build up the relevant trust and reputation that any Website owner aims for.
Finally, newsletters or ezines can also help you get traffic with what we call the word of mouth publicity. Making sure that your newsletters create enough curiosity will be more than enough for your loyal readers, to help you drive traffic to your site with recommendations.
Although these suggestions cannot completely guarantee cent percent traffic to your Website, it would really depend on your efforts and how eager are you to advertise about your site.
The first and foremost way to aggregate traffic on your Website is to spend some money on search engines. Leading search engines like yahoo or Google are extremely popular and they would provide a great advertising platform for your Website. You will have to spend inevitably on these search engines but it would be worth the money since Yahoo’s Overture and Google’s Ad words are popular as they guarantee a good amount of traffic for any site. Many organizations have hugely profited from this kind of advertising, and you would not prefer to be left behind.
Swapping links is another great way to advertise your Website. In this method, you need to exchange or trade your links mutually with another Website owner so that he or she can display your link on their Website and you do the same for them as well. This can generate unexpected results if you have traded your site link with a number of other websites.
The concept of viral marketing has steadily crept up on the Internet. This type of marketing allows you to attach your link or any kind of Website details to a small piece of article, a video, or even a game. This type of advertising is very effective since it involves a lot of creativity and is either free or else, very cheap.
People tend to ignore completely, the importance of keywords in a Website. Having the right keywords displayed on your Website is necessary. This is because search engines work on the principle of keywords. You can type in the content yourself or get it done professionally.
Another good way of driving traffic to your Website is by writing articles that are relevant to the main theme of your site. For instance, if your Website deals with automobiles, you can write articles related to automobile deals and automobile parts. You could attach a link to your site at the end of the article along with a small description. People who read these articles would naturally be tempted to visit your site through the link. A lot many sites offer a free hosting of such articles.
Boards or internet communities can also help you generate traffic for our Website. The significance of such boards or communities is that they help you drive a targeted group of visitors to your Website. For instance, if you are looking for traffic from a certain part of the world, boards or communities can be of great help to you. Forums or communities can be great places to display the content and niche of your Website. This will fairly help you to build up the relevant trust and reputation that any Website owner aims for.
Finally, newsletters or ezines can also help you get traffic with what we call the word of mouth publicity. Making sure that your newsletters create enough curiosity will be more than enough for your loyal readers, to help you drive traffic to your site with recommendations.
Although these suggestions cannot completely guarantee cent percent traffic to your Website, it would really depend on your efforts and how eager are you to advertise about your site.
When a relationship starts to breakup
Carl Jung (1875-1961) was a Swiss psychiatrist who is considered the founder of Analytical psychology. What he once said was “To become acquainted with oneself is a terrible shock” This has to do with the ego of each person who can very rarely see the faults that he has as clearly as he sees the faults of others.
What he essentially meant was that we as persons really do not know our selves, and are quite lost when we are involved in any relationship that is close and full of emotion. Starting such a relationship brings in a lot of excitement and passion when it is in its first throes and can cause a person to get emotionally committed. Over time, however these relationships are beset with issues that are personal and can run into impediments that can cause your partner to treat you with a casual familiarity. Initially when the relationship is started, there is a feeling that life is fine and has no problems, because loneliness has been banished and that there is now a partner who will share our daily problems and upheavals in life. We are sure that we will never ever be alone again and that life will just be all easy and trouble free henceforth.
Once we have made these assumptions we constantly expect that our partners will continue to behave as they did during the initial days, and get quite disappointed when they do not. At that stage we are heavily dependent on the other person to provide us a sense of fulfillment and a measure of happiness, and thus we get sorely disappointed when the opposite happens and then tend to blame it on the other person. We are unwilling to look at ourselves and introspect whether it is our own shortcomings that have caused this situation. This is probably what Carl Jung meant when he said that getting acquainted with oneself can be a great shock.
Once, this sort of thinking enters a relationship, disagreements are bound to start. Even when the persons in the relationship do go in for corrective therapy, each of them starts the therapy with a firm belief that their other partner will change and no more be a starting point for the problems between them. This tendency of thinking that one cannot be in the wrong is what causes most relationships to founder on.
Relationships that have been going on over a long period then enter a stage where the partners feel alienated from each other. The initial euphoria and excitement goes totally missing and each partner starts wondering about it. Whatever passion, sexual intimacy and freedom that was there starts to diminish, and the feeling of being connected to each other goes way. The feeling of being in love is no more dominant, though either or both may feel that they still love each other. There is a feeling of strangeness in the relationship with each partner feeling quite lost and at sea.
The relationship reaches such a stage, that each partner feels that though they have individually given all their energy, attention and love to the relationship: in turn they have only lost their own personal identity by submerging themselves in the relationship. They would most certainly have made some changes to their lifestyle, hobbies and social friendships, that other wise filled their life, just so that they could concentrate fully on developing this new relationship. Most people do start isolating themselves from their social circle when they are about to form a relationship, especially when the new partner is not part of this group of acquaintances. This sense of loss of their old life and the freendom and fun that it had before the relationship was entered into, ultimately leads to some resentment developing towards the other partner.
What he essentially meant was that we as persons really do not know our selves, and are quite lost when we are involved in any relationship that is close and full of emotion. Starting such a relationship brings in a lot of excitement and passion when it is in its first throes and can cause a person to get emotionally committed. Over time, however these relationships are beset with issues that are personal and can run into impediments that can cause your partner to treat you with a casual familiarity. Initially when the relationship is started, there is a feeling that life is fine and has no problems, because loneliness has been banished and that there is now a partner who will share our daily problems and upheavals in life. We are sure that we will never ever be alone again and that life will just be all easy and trouble free henceforth.
Once we have made these assumptions we constantly expect that our partners will continue to behave as they did during the initial days, and get quite disappointed when they do not. At that stage we are heavily dependent on the other person to provide us a sense of fulfillment and a measure of happiness, and thus we get sorely disappointed when the opposite happens and then tend to blame it on the other person. We are unwilling to look at ourselves and introspect whether it is our own shortcomings that have caused this situation. This is probably what Carl Jung meant when he said that getting acquainted with oneself can be a great shock.
Once, this sort of thinking enters a relationship, disagreements are bound to start. Even when the persons in the relationship do go in for corrective therapy, each of them starts the therapy with a firm belief that their other partner will change and no more be a starting point for the problems between them. This tendency of thinking that one cannot be in the wrong is what causes most relationships to founder on.
Relationships that have been going on over a long period then enter a stage where the partners feel alienated from each other. The initial euphoria and excitement goes totally missing and each partner starts wondering about it. Whatever passion, sexual intimacy and freedom that was there starts to diminish, and the feeling of being connected to each other goes way. The feeling of being in love is no more dominant, though either or both may feel that they still love each other. There is a feeling of strangeness in the relationship with each partner feeling quite lost and at sea.
The relationship reaches such a stage, that each partner feels that though they have individually given all their energy, attention and love to the relationship: in turn they have only lost their own personal identity by submerging themselves in the relationship. They would most certainly have made some changes to their lifestyle, hobbies and social friendships, that other wise filled their life, just so that they could concentrate fully on developing this new relationship. Most people do start isolating themselves from their social circle when they are about to form a relationship, especially when the new partner is not part of this group of acquaintances. This sense of loss of their old life and the freendom and fun that it had before the relationship was entered into, ultimately leads to some resentment developing towards the other partner.
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Acheive more in the time you have
There can come many days in one’s life when one is busy from morning till night with hardly any time to even take a deep breath, and yet when the day is done, you are left with the feeling that there have been many things that were in your to-do list, which have still not been attended to.
So then you need some tips on how to get control of your day and keep the time you have, under your control.
Tip 1: A lot of planning.
This may sound like you have heard it before, but however cliched it may sound the right way to have a day where you have used your time satisfactorily, is when you have a day that you have planned in advance. A little bit of time the night before, spent noting down the important things that have to be attended to the next day and the time slot when you need to do it and the time that you have available to do it in, will make it clear in your mind, the tasks that have to be done the following day. This listing will also let your subconscious work on the intricacies of each task and the problems they may entail. The next day you would be totally focused on the tasks at hand because there is no ambiguity on what you have to do during the day. If you find the action of writing down irksome (I know I do), mentally review your day and do the same exercise.
Tip 2: Don’t waste time.
Do not spend a lot of time on each of your phone calls. It would also not be a bad idea if you stop accepting calls, especially when the task at hand requires lot of concentration and attention. Set up a time when you will tend to your E-mails and refrain from checking you’re in box frequently. Do not surf the internet unless your particular task allotted to that time demands it. Make a note of the things that do lead to time wastage, and make a firm resolve to avoid them.
Tip 3: Do not say ‘Yes’ when you mean ‘No’
Do not automatically say ‘Yes’ every time your colleague makes a request. If it does not suit you at that particular time, say so, and excuse yourself. This way you will also let your colleague know that you are giving more importance to the task that you have in front of you, and would rather not be disturbed. This will keep you in control and not allow others in your team or work place dictate to you how and when things should be done.
Tip 4: Constantly review.
Constantly review the tasks you have allotted for the day and if you feel that one of them needs to be deferred or given precedence to, do so. After all, the plan is yours, and you have the right to make the changes, so that they make your work day go better. Making such changes can probably make a difference to your ultimate productivity, and probably save you some time in future.
Tip5: Organize yourself.
See that you are always working in an organized manner with all the things that you need for the task at hand, whether it be stationery, phone numbers, or reference material. If your task needs that you consult a colleague, ensure that he is available before you schedule your task, as if he is not, your entire schedule could get upset. If it is a trip somewhere, see that you have all the bookings and reservations in place before you start out.
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